Because Clothes Talk

Is Your Poor Image Blocking Your Promotion?

2011-09-09T17:32:00.020-04:00

When you were interviewing for the job, you dressed up and paid extra attention to your grooming. But after you had the job for a while, did your grooming regimen take a vacation? If so, the lack of attention to your appearance could be blocking your climb up the corporate ladder!

According to a survey by Careerbuilder.com, employers have identified the personal attributes that would make an employee less appealing for a promotion. Bad breath, unkempt clothes, piercings and visible tattoos topped the list.

CareerBuilder said bosses look at the whole package – not just strong performance and leadership skills – when it comes to promoting successful employees. Employers want to promote employees who have a professional image on the inside and the outside.

The top 10 personal attributes employers say would make them less likely to extend a promotion include:

1. Piercings (cited by 37 percent of employers)

2. Bad breath (34 percent)

3. (tie) Visible tattoo (31 percent)

3. (tie) Often wears wrinkled clothes (31 percent)

4. Messy hair (29 percent)

5. Dresses too casually (28 percent)

6. Too much perfume/cologne (26 percent)

7. Too much makeup (22 percent)

8. Messy office or cubicle (19 percent)

9. Chewed fingernails (10 percent)

10. Too suntanned (4 percent)

Your boss probably won't tell you, but now you know. So, check yourself before you wreck yourself… and your career!

The survey was conducted by Harris Interactive among 2,878 hiring managers (non-government) across industries.

Summer Trends 2011: What are You Wearing?

2011-06-24T17:46:00.045-04:00

Although the weather has been sweltering for weeks, summer has just (officially) arrived. So, what are you wearing this season? Have you found clothes that help you feel cool while looking cool?

If you’re shopping for summer attire, here are a few 2011 trends for women and men. Not much middle ground here – you’ll either love or hate these!

Seven Trends for Women…

1. ‘70s inspired. Floppy hats, peasant blouses, macramé belts, beaded earrings, denim skirts, high-waist flared jeans, cork wedges and espadrilles. Lots of fun stuff here, but a little goes a long way. Do not – unless you’re going to a theme party – wear more than a couple of these ‘70s trends at once.

2. Crisp white. Summer and white clothes go together like fireworks and the Fourth of July. This year’s white dresses, skirts and blouses have clean lines with lots of structure and/or texture to keep them interesting. You can’t miss with this one, so go crazy!

3. Very bright colors. Eye-popping greens and blues ranging from emerald to aqua to turquoise, along with battery-powered shades of pink and orange. If you wore this trend in the ‘80s – when it was called neon – you might want to sit this one out. However, if you can’t resist, get a couple of pieces. But don’t fill your closet with these glow-in-the-dark garments because this trend should pass quickly.

4. Structured handbags. Oversized totes with metal accents take a backseat to smaller, more streamlined bags. Envelope bags, satchels and clutches in perforated leather, bright colors or two-toned leather force you to edit what you carry, while elevating your style. Get it.

5. Faux snakeskin. This print is everywhere and on everything. From the expected – handbags, heels and loafers, to the unexpected – dresses, blouses and trench coats. Think of it as the ‘new leopard’ print. If you’re on the fence about this one, start with the safest choice: a faux snakeskin bag. Could be fun!

6. Maxi dresses. This billowy look works for most body types, as long as the fit is good (i.e. not too tight or too long). That’s probably why it’s still around after a few seasons of immense popularity. But get one this year because its 15-minutes should be up soon. Tick. Tock.

7. Classic loafers and men’s-style oxfords. Not your father’s shoes, but an updated version for women. There’s something for everyone… bright colors, two-toned, even faux snakeskin. A good alternative to flats, so give them a try!

And Three Trends for Men…

1. “In between” shoes. Dressier than sneakers, but not as dressy as leather oxfords. Driving moccasins or linen bucks are a perfect summer companion to jeans or shorts.

2. Unlined blazer. Again, working the dressy-casual zone. An unlined blazer dresses up your jeans or khakis, but it’s more relaxed – and less bulky – than a lined blazer.

3. Cotton slacks in many colors. These are basically khakis… but in blue, green, pale yellow and even red. Step out of your comfort zone (at least a bit), and away from the usual khaki, tan, taupe, stone and olive slacks!

Remember, by their very nature trends are fleeting. So, carefully choose what works for you and ignore the rest. (I can’t say this enough: every trend is not for every body!) New trends, perhaps more to your liking, are just around the corner.

It’s Spring: Time to Shake Up your Clothes

2011-03-29T15:45:00.023-04:00

Many of us are creatures of habit, treading the well-worn path of familiarity. We often order the same dish, regardless of the day’s special. (Guilty!) But nothing is more familiar and soothing than wearing our clothes exactly the same way each time.

Well spring is a time of rejuvenation, so I suggest seven easy ways to breathe new life into our wardrobes – and a few other areas of our lives.

1. Give yourself permission to try new things. You always can go back to the familiar if you don't like it, but begin by saying 'yes' to something new.

2. Inject more color into your wardrobe. Spring is the perfect time to take a break from your all-black or neutral attire. Start with just one brightly colored blouse/shirt. Or at least add a few colorful accessories or a necktie.

3. Try a new restaurant or coffee shop. Or try a new dish or beverage at your favorite haunt. At the very least sit at a different table.

4. Mix patterns with confidence. With pinstripes (and certain plaids), just ignore the stripes/pattern and treat it as a ‘solid’ color. This allows you to wear a patterned blouse or shirt with a pinstripe or plaid suit, creating a new look.

5. Take a different route for your commute to work/home. You may be pleasantly surprised – or even inspired – by what you see.

6. Send your clothes to Divorce Court. Just because you purchased the top and bottom at the same time doesn’t mean they must spend eternity together. Break them up! Changing your combinations will make your wardrobe seem larger.

7. Wardrobe choices are not permanent. If your fashion experiment ends up in the “don’t” column, no worries. Each day brings a new opportunity to get it right.

Here's to a wonderful and stylish spring!

Fall Trends 2010: What (Not) to Wear

2010-09-16T20:16:00.015-04:00

When the seasons change, the inevitable fashion question arises… what are the hot or must-have trends this year? As an image consultant it’s part of my job to know those trends. But I don’t live and die by trends, and I don’t recommend that approach to my clients.

With that in mind, here’s a list of seven trends that are popular this fall, followed by my comments on how to – or whether you should – incorporate them into your wardrobe.

1. Camouflage/military clothing. Military-inspired garb has been popular for a few seasons and it’s as strong as ever this fall. The camouflage print works well on certain dresses, shirts, pants and hats. But camouflage leggings? I guess if you want to make your legs ‘disappear’ this is a trend for you. I say a little camo goes a long way, so use it sparingly.

2. Faux fur. Several designers have faux fur jackets and vests in their fall collections. Some of it looks good, in shades of gray and brown. But a faux fur vest with long white strands looks like you were competing on Project Runway and had to make a garment from shag carpet remnants. (Note: I recently saw a department store with the faux fur and camouflage clothing displayed side by side. I could not tell if it was an unfortunate coincidence, or a clever inside joke asking shoppers to choose if they want to be the ‘hunter’ or the ‘prey.’)

3. Hats and scarves for men. Duh. It’s fall. But these particular hats and scarves are not just utilitarian. They take a big cue from the television show Mad Men, adding a specific design aesthetic to transform what could be boring into something of which even the sartorially splendid Don Draper would approve.

4. Aviator and cat-eye sunglasses. Yes, you still need to protect your eyes in fall/winter. Again evoking the Mad Men era, sunglasses in styles from the 50s and 60s are very popular. But these styles are not flattering on everyone. Depending on the shape of your face, it may be best to skip this trend and stick with what looks good on you.

5. Statement necklace or ring. Oversized jewelry – such as necklaces that form a ‘collar’ and giant flower-shaped rings – will continue to be popular. If you are tall or have a large frame, these items may work for you. But be careful if you are petite. It’s never a good idea to wear a necklace that’s bigger than your head or a flower ring that bellows ‘Feed me, Seymour!’

6. Nude-colored fashions. A favorite of fashionistas like Jennifer Lopez and Mariah Carey, the popular color has become a staple on the red carpet and can be found in everyday wear including dresses, blouses and slacks. Frankly, I find it boring and uninspired. How boring? It makes beige look exciting. The exception is nude-colored shoes because they make the legs look longer by not ‘chopping’ them off at the feet. FYI… everyone’s ‘nude’ is different; if your skin is chocolate brown, then your nude shoes should be chocolate brown.

7. Camel-colored garments. This is a classic color that works well on men and women. (I know you’re thinking, ‘What’s the difference between camel and beige?’ The two are worlds apart!) A camel-colored wool coat (pictured) in a classic style will serve you well for years to come. Camel looks elegant with charcoal, black, red, dark brown, navy and even winter white.

Instead of blindly following trends, you should explore ‘what’s hot’ and decide which ones, if any, work with your personality, profession, and body type. If a trend works... great. If it does not… just let it pass and wait for the next one!

Save Money… Not Clothes

2010-06-05T22:34:00.019-04:00

It’s there. Way in the back of your closet. Price tag still intact. Waiting patiently to be rescued from limbo. It’s The Dress. Or maybe it’s The Coat. Or is it The Shoes?

You wanted this item because you loved how it looked on you and the way it made you feel. But shortly after you bought it, you declared it was much too nice to wear on just a ‘normal’ day. Oh, no. This item deserved to be saved for a very special occasion.

That was a year ago. Or was it two years ago? So, just how special is the occasion you are expecting? An invitation to Vanity Fair's Oscar party? A State Dinner at The White House? Tea at Buckingham Palace? A private audience with the Pope? A date with George Clooney?

And if/when this momentous occasion eventually arrives, will the clothes you’re saving even still be in style?

I’ve said it before, but it's worth repeating – life is too short to spend it wearing ugly clothes. Life also is too short to ‘save’ clothes for a special occasion. (We should save money, not clothes. Beautiful clothes should be worn – often!)

Make every day special. Rip off the price tag and wear that gorgeous dress or those killer shoes. And when someone asks, ‘What’s the occasion?’ ... just smile and say, ‘It’s Tuesday!’

Being 'Grown-up' is More than Your Age

2010-05-05T20:55:00.004-04:00

Last week I was shopping with a client who is gearing up for her 40th birthday. She wants to revamp her wardrobe to be more age appropriate, while remaining true to her youthful energy and outgoing personality. No problem!

However, in addition to incorporating ‘grown-up clothes’ she wants to adopt more grown-up behaviors, such as sending handwritten thank-you notes. This will take a little longer, but her goal is attainable and it made me think about a few other grown-up behaviors and style choices to consider.

Here are 10 things you can try at any age:

1. Be kind to waiters. Why? First, it’s just good form to be nice to anyone who is serving you. Second, it’s smart. Not only is this person in charge of your food, you are about to hand over your debit/credit card to him or her. Think about it. (And when you get good service, leave a generous tip – at least 18 percent.)

2. Do not chew gum in public. Why? Ever seen Britney Spears struggle through an interview while chomping on a gob of Big Red? Yikes. Restrict your gum chewing to long road trips or if you’re working around the house. If you’re in public and need to freshen your breath, reach for a mint.

3. Leggings and tights are not pants. No matter how thin or shapely, a grown woman should not wear leggings or tights as a substitute for pants. I know Audrey Hepburn made it look chic – but she was Audrey Hepburn. Just put on a pair of well-fitting pants or jeans.

4. A wireless earpiece is not a fashion accessory. An earpiece is fine for hands-free driving or if your job requires endless phone calls. But walking through the park or grocery shopping with that object sprouting from your ear says you are too attached to your phone. Literally.

5. Sunglasses are to protect your eyes from the sun. When you enter a building, remove your sunglasses and put them in your pocket/purse. Wearing sunglasses on top of your head? Only if you don’t have a pocket or purse.

6. Frosted lipstick is for little girls. On a grown woman, frosted lipstick looks like you just ate a Krispy Kreme doughnut, and you didn’t have a napkin to wipe your mouth. Stick with your favorite shade of red.

7. Grown men should only wear a team jersey on game day (or if you have just been drafted by the team). Otherwise, wear a real shirt – with a collar.

8. It’s okay to ignore a fashion trend. Just because a trend is in every store and on every magazine cover, you do not have to follow the herd. Every trend does not work for every person. Being a grown-up includes knowing when a trend doesn’t look good on you.

9. RSVP and go. When the invitation says ‘RSVP,’ you should reply as soon as possible and let the host know whether you plan to attend. (Don’t wait until the last minute… thinking you’ll get a better offer.) The host needs to know who’s coming, in order to determine how much food and drink to buy. And if you say you will attend – then go. It is rude to be a no-show unless you have a valid reason.

10. Send a handwritten thank-you note. (My client is right about this.) Whether following up on a job interview, saying thanks for a dinner party invitation, or acknowledging a graduation/wedding/baby shower gift… the reasons to send a handwritten note are endless. It takes more effort than texting or instant messaging, but the recipient will remember that you took the time to do it.

This list is a lot to take on at once, so tackle one or two items at a time. Before you know it, you’ll be following the advice of Prince (and parents around the globe) to 'Act your age... not your shoe size!'

Wardrobe Basics for Women and Men

2010-04-22T09:33:00.027-04:00

Question:

I usually buy my clothes at consignment stores because this is both cheaper and “greener” than the mall. Therefore, I have lots of quirky, cool things I love in my wardrobe, but not many basics. So here’s my question: What are the basics I need to add that can complement my consignment-quirky wardrobe?

--submitted by M.L.

Hello M.L.,

Thanks for your question.

This is a good problem to have. I find it easier to add the necessary basics to a collection of quirky and cool clothes than to inject whimsy/personality into a closet full of basics. So, in my book, you are ahead of the game!

To start, think of your wardrobe as a bite of cake with a good balance of frosting and cake. The ‘frosting’ is your accessories, including the quirky or cool items you already have. The ‘cake’ is your wardrobe basics – shirts/blouses, slacks/skirts, dresses – that you wear regularly. Right now you have a lot of frosting, and you need more cake.

The particular basics you need (and how many) will be determined by several factors, including your occupation and your company’s dress code. If you work from home and rarely have face-to-face meetings, you may not require an extensive wardrobe. Regardless, there are key garments that a well-dressed person should have in their closet when the need arrives. My recommendations are below.

Wardrobe basics for women:

-Tailored dress slacks in black and gray (and perhaps in taupe and navy).
-Skirts in the same colors. If you never wear skirts, add more slacks.
-Tailored blazer that you can wear with jeans, a skirt, or slacks.
-Dark wash jeans.
-Day dress. (Try a wrap style or coat-dress style, depending on your
preference and body type.)
-White cotton blouse.
-Black turtleneck.
-Woman’s tee-shirts (v-neck or scoop neck and colors depend on your preference).
-Cocktail or ‘little black dress.’

Wardrobe basics for men:

-Two-piece suit in charcoal or navy.
-Sport coat.
-Blue dress shirt.
-White dress shirt.
-Dark wash jeans.
-Flat front khaki pants.
-Polo shirts or your preferred style of casual shirt with a collar.
-Tuxedo. (Rent only if you’re a groomsman and all tuxedos must match.)

These lists do not include shoes, belts, coats or the various accessories you will need to complete your look. However, the items listed provide a good foundation to get you on your way!

How to Be Warm and Stylish in Winter

2010-01-13T16:24:00.010-05:00

Question:
How can I dress warmly and with style in the winter time in a casual/business casual office environment? My solution is always to put on as many layers as possible, which rarely translates into a stylish look. Any ideas?
-submitted by L. E., Atlanta, GA

Thanks for your question, L.E.

Dressing for winter weather often pits style against comfort, making us wonder if it’s possible to stay warm without looking like Kenny from South Park. But with a little planning you can be both warm and stylish.

Here are three things to consider:

1. Multiple Layers
2. Winter Fabrics
3. Color Coordination

Multiple Layers. What you wear underneath and on top of your ‘outfit’ will play a big part in keeping you warm. Let’s start with what you’ll wear underneath.

For women, a pair of tights – worn under slacks or the right skirt/dress – instantly adds a layer of warmth without adding bulk. If you're wearing jeans or slacks, consider thermals. (For men, wearing thermals under jeans or even under a suit is an easy way to add a layer of warmth.) Depending on the style of your blouse/shirt/sweater, you can wear a thermal shirt underneath.

Today’s thermals are often thin and lightweight, yet still provide much-needed warmth. No one will know you're wearing this hidden layer, so no need to feel self-conscious.

Your outer layer – a coat or jacket big enough to fit comfortably over the other layers – has to work very hard. It should be able to withstand the elements and still look good. On the plus side, Southern winters generally are less harsh than winters in the Midwest or Northeast. Usually you can get by with a heavy wool coat (instead of the unattractive down-filled coats required for survival in harsher climates). A wool coat also allows you to inject a bit of style.

Winter Fabrics. By now your lightweight/summer clothes have been packed away for a few months. (Correct?) You should be wearing wool, flannel, corduroy and other fabrics known for their warmth. Pullover sweaters or cardigans made of merino wool or cashmere look good, do not add much bulk, and are quite warm. Wool suits, slacks and skirts should be staples in your winter wardrobe. And don’t forget wool socks to keep your feet from becoming blocks of ice.

Color Coordination. Your winter attire won’t be complete without gloves, a scarf and a warm hat. If you select your gloves/scarf/hat in a single color or shades of the same color, you're well on your way to creating a pulled-together look.

While everyone else may look like they just threw on a random collection of winter clothes, you will look like the stylish person you were meant to be!

Resolving to Lose Weight? Skip the Charade!

2009-12-21T19:51:00.002-05:00

It's December. The end of another year. Time to review what we accomplished. What lingers on our to-do list. And, yes... what we resolve to do next year.

I hate this part of the holidays. Just call me The Grinch Who Stole New Year's.

Each year I used to resolve to eat more fruits and vegetables (and fewer fries); drink more water (and less soda and coffee); and exercise at least three times a week.

It never happened.

So I finally dropped the charade of a new year's diet. You should, too.

Why?

Every January millions resolve to lose weight and/or get in shape, after which they plan to buy new clothes and pay more attention to their appearance. Many even join fitness clubs and put forth a valiant effort... for about six weeks or so.

By spring, most of those resolutions have been abandoned, and trips to the gym have dwindled or stopped entirely. This, of course, means they never get to the second part of the plan... the part where they buy new clothes and pay attention to their appearance. As a result, they spend the remainder of the new year looking (and feeling) just as bad as the year before.

I propose that we all skip the weight-loss charade! Stop kidding ourselves that we are going to exercise diligently and lose weight at the beginning of the year. There is nothing magical or special about the month of January. (I mean, you could have started last May. Or August. What was wrong with October? See.)

Instead of postponing 'looking better,' I say begin where you are right now. Instead of signing a contract for a gym membership (that you are likely to abandon), you should spend the money on a couple of new outfits in your current size.

"But I'm fat!," you say. Yes, you are. I won't lie to you. But stick with me; the brilliance of my plan is about to come through!

Wearing clothes that fit well and are flattering - regardless of your size - will have a positive influence on your outlook. Your family, friends and co-workers will notice, and compliment you. The compliments will serve as motivation to lose weight.

Soon you will think, "If I look this good in a size XXX, imagine how much better I will look if I diet and exercise and get down to a size X!"

I know this works. Last year one of my clients was struggling with her weight and was not in the mood to do anything about it. After I helped her get some new clothes (in her size at the time), she was energized and motivated to begin a diet and exercise program. Today she has lost weight and a few dress sizes, her confidence is back, and she looks and feels amazing!

You can do it, too.

So, out with the old resolution to lose weight first. Start looking your best where you are RIGHT NOW. By spring - when the fitness centers are empty again - you can begin making your outside look as good as you feel inside.

Cheers!

Parties Ahead: Proceed with Caution

2009-11-07T21:12:00.011-05:00

The holidays are almost here. Soon you will be celebrating with your family, friends and neighbors. And let’s not forget the annual tradition that is anticipated by some, while dreaded by others: the office holiday party!

With a little foresight, the office party can be a fun and memorable event. Because it’s the holidays, you can step out a little with your attire, but keep your behavior in check.

Let’s start with the obvious… what should you wear?

First, your workplace probably has a dress code – either official or unofficial – that you observe every day. You know what attire is appropriate for your particular industry, so keep this code in mind when selecting your party attire.

For the party, your outfit can have a little sparkle (‘party’ jewelry or a dress made of shiny fabric) or you can show a little cleavage. (Men can step out with a more colorful shirt-tie combination, but avoid anything gimmicky like a Santa tie or Santa hat.)

It is a party, but remember it also is a work function. There are parts of your body that your boss and co-workers do not need to see. Period. This is not the time to reveal the tattoo you got during Spring Break of your senior year!

Avoid wearing anything that is too tight, too short, too low-cut, too sheer or any combination of the above. You are going to a party with your co-workers, not applying for a job at Hooters.

If you plan to dance at the party, wear shoes that will be comfortable all evening. Do not wear shoes that you’ll have to kick off after just one spin around the dance floor. Wearing a party dress while dancing in your stocking feet just makes you look drunk, whether you are or not.

Speaking of alcoholic beverages …

Keep in mind that this is an office party. Put the emphasis on ‘office’ and not on ‘party.’ Sure, there is an open bar, but this is not the time to experiment with new concoctions or overindulge in your favorite beverage. Know your limit and strictly obey it.

The last thing you want to do is drink too much and embarrass your spouse/date, your clients, your boss, or most importantly, yourself.

(I once had a co-worker who imbibed too much at the holiday party. In her inebriated state she ‘flashed’ several colleagues and French kissed another one. I didn’t even attend the party, but our co-workers replayed the unfortunate events of the evening for me, minute by minute. She never lived it down, and her party story became legendary.)

Now, back to you. Come Monday morning, you will be back in the office working side by side with your co-workers and your boss. Unlike Vegas, what happens at the office party does not stay at the office party. So, don’t wear or do anything that will make you the main character in a cautionary tale.

Eyeglasses: To See and Be Seen

2009-10-23T20:00:00.004-04:00

Question:
What does your choice in glasses say about you? Can glasses change how people perceive you? For those of us that have to wear them, and for someone that has been thinking about shaking up my look (always very conservative)… it is an important quandary!
-submitted by A.T.

Thanks for your question, A.T.

I’m a big believer in accessories and their ability to convey your mood or affect the way you look. Glasses, although they are a necessity for you, are the ultimate ‘accessory’ because you wear them every day and with everything.

So, what do glasses say about the wearer?

According to a survey by eyewear maker Essilor of America, 40 percent of those surveyed said that people who wear glasses are perceived as being “smarter.” Thirty-nine percent said people look “more sophisticated” wearing glasses.

Okay. Smart is good. Sophisticated is great. But do glasses diminish the wearer’s attractiveness?

According to the survey, 73 percent of the respondents said glasses have little to no impact on the wearer’s attractiveness. Sixty percent of men and 62 percent of women disagree with the adage of "boys don't make passes at girls who wear glasses?"

Singer Britney Spears topped the list of sexiest eyeglass-wearing celebrity among male voters (44 percent). Actor Richard Gere took the top celebrity spot among female voters, with 35 percent.

Although Britney’s and Richard’s spectacles say sexy, glasses say different things, largely depending on the wearer. When it comes to famous people in glasses, here’s how I see it…

“Smart” glasses: inventor Benjamin Franklin, billionaire Bill Gates, writer/actress Tina Fey.

“Cool” glasses: entertainer Whoopi Goldberg, singer-activist Bono, actors Johnny Depp and James Dean, activist Malcolm X.

“Creative” glasses: singer Elton John, architect IM Pei, fashion designers Yves St. Laurent and Christian Siriano.

A number of politicians, including former Secretary of State Henry Kissinger and former Governor of Alaska Sarah Palin, are synonymous with their eyewear. And how would we ever recognize characters such as Harry Potter, Clark Kent and Charlie Brown's Marcie without their trademark eyeglasses?

So, how do you find eyeglasses that are right for you? A few tips…

1) Do not rush. You will be wearing your glasses every day, so take your time to find the right pair. If your optometrist does not have anything you like, take your prescription and shop around.

2) Combine function with beautiful form. The options are plentiful, so look for glasses that not only help you to see, but help others see you in a new light.

3) Consider the shape of your face. As a general rule, the shape of your glasses should contrast with the shape of your face. For example, if you have a round face, do not get round glasses; try glasses that are more rectangular in shape. If your face is angular, do not get glasses with sharp angles; try round or oval ones.

4) You can have more than one pair. Perhaps a ‘serious’ pair for work and a ‘fun’ pair (or two) for evenings and weekends.

5) Get the opinion of someone you trust. A friend of mine, who is in her 50s, says she always seeks the advice of someone younger so that her glasses look current and not like little-old-lady glasses.

6) Repeat these steps every two or three years. Eyeglasses go out of style, just like everything else. You cannot look 'current' if you've been wearing the same glasses for 10 years.

Now that you have some guidelines, which style of eyeglass frames ranked sexiest according to the survey? Rimless eyeglasses took the top spot by 49 percent of both wearers of eyeglasses and those who do not wear glasses. Metal frames came in second with 38 percent. And almost half (46 percent) of those surveyed would consider wearing eyeglasses as a fashion accessory – even if they didn’t need glasses.

Note to self: Schedule eye appointment; ask about rimless frames. Pronto!

Best of luck to you, A.T.!

What do your shoes say?

2009-10-09T17:43:00.015-04:00

The shoes you wear to work every day may or may not reflect your personality – they’re just part of your work attire.

Construction workers wear steel-toed boots. Coaches wear athletic shoes. Businessmen wear wingtips. Nurses wear whatever is most comfortable!

But your casual shoes - the ones you choose to wear in your free time - tell a different story. That's because many shoes have a ‘brand’ and can associate certain characteristics with the wearer – whether accurate or not.

For example, someone wearing Birkenstocks (or a similar type of sandal) may be pegged as laid back, environmentally conscious, or at worst a ‘tree-hugger.’

Tevas say ‘sporty.’

White running shoes typically say 'American,' and when traveling abroad they say 'tourist.'

Five-inch stilettos say ... ahem, they say a lot!

Crocs say 'I'm cute.' But they only work for children. Wearing Crocs after age 10 says that you just don’t care. (That’s my very personal opinion!) Adults should not wear Crocs unless washing the car or planting shrubbery.

So, whether you're reaching for Doc Martens, slingbacks, flip-flops, or Chucks, take a minute to think about what your shoes are saying.

Is that the message you want to send?

Transition to fall clothes in 3 easy steps

2009-10-04T20:06:00.006-04:00

Fall is here! It’s my favorite season because we get a break from the sweltering temperatures, the air is crisp, and we don’t need coats – yet.

Time to take out your fall clothes. But what if you really don’t have ‘fall’ clothes? Perhaps your closet is filled with ‘summer’ clothes and ‘winter’ clothes, but very little in between. How do you bridge the seasons?

No need to panic. Here are three steps that will make the transition easy – for both women and men.

First, put away any clothes that just yell summer: cotton shorts, linen slacks/skirts and sandals. If you have any doubt regarding whether an item is too ‘summery’ to wear into fall, ask yourself a couple of questions about the garment:

1. Is it white? I know, I know. The new fashion ‘rules’ dictate that you can wear white after Labor Day. I gave you a few weeks; it’s October now. Time to give up white pants. (White shirts and blouses - not made of linen - are fine year-round.)

2. When the temperature was in the upper 90s, did you wear this item because it helped keep you cool? If so, pack it away until next year.

Second, bring out the clothes that you packed away at the first sign of spring… sweaters, jackets/blazers, scarves and boots. Before you put these clothes into your closet and dresser drawers, ask yourself, “Did I wear this last winter?” If you did not wear it, why not? Is it because the item is out of style? Or have you simply grown tired of it?

If you did not wear it last year, how likely are you to wear it this year?

The item is just taking up space in your closet. If it is in good condition, donate it to charity. If it is not in good condition (i.e. torn or stained), toss it in the trash.

The third and final step is blending your summer wardrobe with fall items to add warmth. Go for a streamlined V-neck, crew neck or cardigan made of merino wool. (Do not raid your grandfather’s closet for one of his bulky cable-knit sweaters!) Or you can add a jacket made of heavy canvas or a lightweight blazer.

Finish the transition by switching to fall shoes, such as leather boots or a nice pair of suede chukka boots.

I think you’re ready for your close-up!

Manners are always in style.

2009-09-29T20:45:00.001-04:00

Last Sunday I met a friend for what started as a leisurely brunch, but ended as a reminder of the importance of good manners.

A dear friend and I had not seen each other in a couple of months, so after having our fill of great food we settled down to chat over coffee. Our waiter was pleasant and did not give the unspoken ‘time for you to leave’ vibe that usually comes when a restaurant is packed.

Well, even though the waiter did not mind our lingering, another patron was coveting our table -- and he made it known.

As we enjoyed our coffee, Old Man shuffled right up to our table and ‘jokingly’ said that we were sitting at his table. He prattled on about how he always sits at that particular table -- the one where we were obviously loitering now that we had finished our meal. He even suggested that we move to one of the available tables.

Pardon me?

Astonished, my friend looked at me with a ‘can you believe this?’ expression on her face as I scanned the restaurant for telltale signs of hidden cameras. Clearly we were the targets of a reality show in which Old Man was playing the Jack Nicholson role from As Good As It Gets or the Dustin Hoffman role from Rain Man.

But Old Man was not part of any show or acting a role. He simply was a restaurant patron who forgot where he was and forgot his manners to boot.

He forgot that he was not at home, in his own dining room, where he can sit in the same chair every day and dare anybody to go near it. He was in a public restaurant – where seats are assigned as you enter.

I could not tell if he was mentally ill, or just a cranky old man accustomed to getting his way. I took both possibilities into consideration and refrained from letting him know exactly what I was thinking. (Trust me. It was not a happy thought.)

My friend and I mustered a couple of smiles, assured him that we would be leaving soon, and kindly suggested that he take a seat at one of the empty tables until we departed. He mumbled something, and shuffled off.

Our waiter and the restaurant’s manager came over in succession. Both were mortified and apologized profusely, explaining that Old Man is a semi-regular guest who always insists on having that particular table.

My friend and I sat there for a few more uncomfortable minutes, then got up to leave. As we headed for the door, the restaurant host stopped us and offered the third apology of the morning. At this point we were more embarrassed by the apologies than the incident itself.

But back to Old Man… there is no excuse for his behavior. Yes, he is old and he may have some mental issues. If that is the case, then the people accompanying him in public – in this case, his wife – should rein him in and not allow his rudeness to disrupt others’ enjoyment. If he were a few years younger, or if the importance of good manners had not been drilled into my head from birth, the scenario could have taken a nasty turn very quickly.

It is never in style to be rude. Not to a stranger. Not to a waiter. Not to a fellow patron. Not to anyone.

Besides, is the location of your table really that important? Seriously.

Try new things, but don't go crazy!

2009-09-22T18:34:00.000-04:00

When it comes to my personal style, I am very confident regarding what works and doesn't work for me. But to keep from getting in a fashion rut I will try new styles on occasion. One such instance was during a recent trip to Chicago to visit a friend (who happens to be a true fashionista).

While browsing a men's boutique, a military-style jacket caught my eye. This is not my usual style, but my friend encouraged me to try it on. I did, and to my surprise I looked pretty good in it... and not like a long-lost member of the Jackson Family! (What is it with their fascination with military garb?) She gave the jacket the nod of approval, so I said yes.

Well, I was on a roll now. "What else should I try?"

Having recently bought two pairs of jeans, I did not want or need more, but the 'sale' sign seemed to call my name. I quickly thumbed through the stacks and found my size in a style unlike the ones I just bought.

The jeans were black, with straight legs. Dare I say they were 'skinny' jeans?

My gut said no, but I was still floating because of my new jacket, so off to the dressing room I marched... salesman and fashionista friend in tow.

A few grunts later, I emerged from the dressing room. I already knew how I looked (because there was a mirror in the dressing room). But in keeping with the 'try new things' theme of the day, I had to see this experiment to its fruition.

The look on the faces of the salesman and my friend said it all: Oh. My. God!

The skinny jeans were so tight they made my legs look like sausage casings. And, when I turned to show the back side... well, let's just say that I could have been J-Lo's brother!

My fashionista friend slowly shook her head. Horrrified. The salesman, trying to put a positive spin on it, commented that I definitely would get attention if I wore the jeans. Tempting thought... but no. The skinny jeans went back on the shelf.

So, the lesson learned: Try new styles. See how today's trends look on you. But, in the end, remain true to yourself.

Don't get caught up with trends and lose your own style in the process.

"I care about the details."

2009-09-16T23:00:00.000-04:00

The road to becoming well-dressed doesn't end with a great suit or dress. Hats, belts, watches, sunglasses, cufflinks and scarves may seem like an afterthought or even utilitarian, but they really are a key component of your overall look and can add just the right touch.

Pay attention to the little things. You will make a bigger - and much better - impression!

What lies beneath?

2009-09-13T15:59:00.000-04:00

Your undergarments are just as important as your top layer of clothing. They should fit well and provide support.

Periodically take stock. Stretched elastic? Pit stains? Faded colors? Toss it! Your underwear should look good - even if no one sees it but you.

"I respect you - and your senses."

2009-09-05T16:24:00.000-04:00

Use fragrances sparingly. A little goes a long way. Others should not smell you before you enter the room - or after you leave.

“I’m worth it!”

2009-08-19T19:21:00.000-04:00

Instead of buying three inexpensive cotton-blend sweaters, consider one cashmere sweater. Yes, it costs more - but it looks better, feels better, and sets you – and your style – above and apart!